The only thing worse than a missed apology is a fake one. But even when you don't mean to, your friends may think that's exactly what you're giving them.
Often, we quality our apologies with "if" and "but," which Lifehack.org says makes them insincere:
Here it is in two forms: "I'm sorry if you were hurt by X or Y" or "I'm sorry but you never told me Z." The key words that make these examples insincere are "if" and "but." These words shift responsibility from you to the person you are apologizing to.
When you apologize, focus on accepting responsibility instead of thwarting it. Replace "I'm sorry if you were hurt by X or Y" with "I'm sorry for hurting you" to be more sincere to the people who are worth it.
For more tips on saying you're sorry, check out The Key Components of an Effective Apology.
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